1. Think first of the other fellow. This is THE foundation
— the first requisite — for getting along with others.
And it is the one truly difficult accomplishment you must
make. Gaining this, the rest will be “a breeze.”
2. Build up the other person’s sense of importance.
When we make the other person seem less important, we frustrate
one of his deepest urges. Allow him to feel equality or superiority,
and we can easily get along with him.
3. Respect the other man’s personality rights. Respect
as something sacred the other fellow’s right to be different
from you. No two personalities are ever molded by precisely
the same forces.
4. Give sincere appreciation. If we think someone
has done a thing well, we should never hesitate to let him
know it. WARNING: This does not mean promiscuous use of obvious
flattery. Flattery with most intelligent people gets exactly
the reaction it deserves — contempt for the egotistical
“phony” who stoops to it.
5. Eliminate the negative. Criticism seldom does
what its user intends, for it invariably causes resentment.
The tiniest bit of disapproval can sometimes cause a resentment
which will rankle — to your disadvantage — for years.
6. Avoid openly trying to reform people. Every man
knows he is imperfect, but he doesn’t want someone else trying
to correct his faults. If you want to improve a person, help
him to embrace a higher working goal — a standard, an
ideal — and he will do his own “making over” far more
effectively than you can do it for him.
7. Try to understand the other person. How would
you react to similar circumstances? When you begin to see
the “whys” of him you can’t help but get along better with
8. Check first impressions. We are especially prone
to dislike some people on first sight because of some vague
resemblance (of which we are usually unaware) to someone else
whom we have had reason to dislike. Follow Abraham Lincoln’s
famous self-instruction: “I do not like that man; therefore
I shall get to know him better.”
9. Take care with the little details. Watch your
smile, your tone of voice, how you use your eyes, the way
you greet people, the use of nicknames and remembering faces,
names and dates. Little things add polish to your skill in
dealing with people. Constantly, deliberately think of them
until they become a natural part of your personality.
10. Develop genuine interest in people. You cannot
successfully apply the foregoing suggestions unless you have
a sincere desire to like, respect and be helpful to others.
Conversely, you cannot build genuine interest in people until
you have experienced the pleasure of working with them in
an atmosphere characterized by mutual liking and respect.
11. Keep it up. That’s all — just keep it up!
정말 많은 것을 생각하게 한다.
HP의 founder중 한명인 David Packard가 정리한 일터에서의 11가지 원칙인데…